"My Husband Is in Contact with His Girlfriend of 10 Years... He Says It's Nothing Serious, Can I Trust Him?"

Husband Contacted Ex-Girlfriend of 10 Years
"Found Out While Undergoing Couples Counseling Considering Divorce"

The ex-partner of a beloved lover is a 'Pandora's box' that brings no good even if discovered. However, a recent story has come to light about a husband who contacted his ex-girlfriend, from whom he had separated due to his parents' fierce opposition.

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On the 11th, a post titled "I saw my husband send a text to a woman he dated before" was uploaded on an online community. The post became a huge topic, recording 3,200 views as of 10 a.m. that day. The author, A, who is currently not on good terms with her husband, began by saying, "While receiving couple counseling, considering divorce due to my husband's anger management disorder, the counselor told me, 'It seems your husband still holds feelings about the forced breakup with his ex-girlfriend.'"

A explained the situation: "Now, the feelings that could be called love have almost disappeared, but recently I saw texts on my husband's phone. I found out that he sent a message to his ex-girlfriend, with whom he had a long-term relationship of 10 years." She continued, "While my husband was dating his ex-girlfriend, she experienced some misfortune, and my mother-in-law secretly contacted the ex-girlfriend, telling her to break up, fearing it might negatively affect my husband. Later, when my husband found out about this, he broke up with her somewhat forcibly. I heard this story in detail from my husband and mother-in-law early in our marriage."

A said, "My husband often talked about his past relationship, expressing feelings of apology toward that friend and always wishing her well. I didn't feel jealousy but rather pity for that woman from the past, so I empathized deeply with my husband's feelings." However, as conflicts between A and her husband worsened and they each sought individual counseling, she discovered that her husband had contacted his ex-girlfriend.

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The conversation between A's husband and his ex-girlfriend, which A revealed, went as follows: The husband asked, "How have you been?" The ex-girlfriend replied, "I've been well. What's the matter?" The husband said, "I still have feelings of regret from the past, and I regret not treating you properly back then, so I contacted you." Hearing his true feelings, the ex-girlfriend gently declined, saying, "Don't worry about me and live well. Congratulations on your marriage." The husband ended the conversation with, "I will keep the good memories from the past. Those times were very good and painful, so I carry them in my heart. Anyway, take care."

A said, "Subjectively, I felt my husband's desperation and tenderness in the text. What hurt me while reading those messages was that he still holds his past lover in his heart, and he seemed warm to that woman in a way completely different from how he treats me." She added, "Our marriage is falling apart, but it is so miserable that he contacted another woman during our marriage. My husband always told me, 'We were going to break up eventually because we dated for so long,' but also said, 'I hated that my mother interfered and caused the breakup.' After reading those texts, I think he wanted to continue the relationship with that woman. I feel like I am living in the shadow of that woman."

Her husband, who often hurt A by saying things like "I've never fought like this with anyone else" or "We never had fights in past relationships," made her feel deeply wounded. A said, "At the time, I thought those were just words said in anger and let it go, but my heart is broken. I am considering divorce, but I still lack the courage. On the other hand, I also want to try living together again if our feelings recover well. But now, I am wondering whether I should just ignore my husband contacting his ex-girlfriend and maintain our marriage."

Netizens who read the story responded with comments such as, "To the husband, the writer was just an ideal daughter-in-law as long as his mother didn't oppose," "The first time is hard, but he will probably keep contacting her," "The ex-girlfriend might be thankful to A. Since she drew a clear line, she probably thinks they broke up well," "If the woman hadn't drawn a line and welcomed him, he might have cheated," and "If you are thinking about divorce, it's better to go through with it."

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