Man "Are you my enemy?"... Woman "Why are you always on the man's side?"... Reasons for Divorce Among Singles

In Conflict, Men Say "It Straight Away"
Women "Hold It In Until It All Comes Out at Once"

What caused the marriage with the ex-spouse to break down? Divorced men, or "dolsing" (returned singles), answered, "My spouse treated me like an enemy," while divorced women said, "My husband was not on my side."

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On the 4th, Only-U, a remarriage-specialized matchmaking company, jointly conducted a survey with the matchmaking company Bienarae (CEO Son Dong-gyu) from the 28th of last month to the 2nd of this month. The survey targeted 506 divorced men and women nationwide who hope to remarry (253 men and 253 women each) through email and phone interviews.

The questionnaire included items such as, "Was there any problem with the attitude toward marriage that caused the marriage with the ex-spouse to break down?"

In response to this question, 33.2% of men answered, "They treated me like an enemy," which was the highest proportion. This was followed by "They constantly complained (28.9%)," "They did not open their hearts (23.3%)," and "They were not on my side (14.6%)."

Among women, 36.8% answered, "They were not on my side," which was the highest, followed by "They did not open their hearts (30.8%)," "They constantly complained (19.4%)," and "They treated me like an enemy (13.0%)."

An Only-U representative explained, "Women often suffer many small and large wounds through married life, so they come to think of their husbands as enemies, and these feelings are conveyed directly or indirectly. From an evolutionary perspective, women expect their husbands to be on their side when they marry, but in real life, this is often not the case, leading to disappointment."

Son Dong-gyu, CEO of Only-U, said, "In married life, both spouses sometimes feel disappointed in each other. While it is naturally necessary to try to reduce each other's mistakes or faults, delicate consideration is also needed when pointing out the other's unsatisfactory words or actions."

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In response to the question, "How did you express dissatisfaction with your spouse during your marriage with your ex-spouse?" 28.9% of men answered, "Directly at the moment," while 30.8% of women answered, "Holding it in and then expressing it all at once," each representing the highest proportion.

Following that, men answered "Holding it in and then expressing it all at once (26.1%)" and "Waiting for the right opportunity to make them understand (21.7%)," while women answered "Silent protest by sulking (26.1%)" and "Directly at the moment (25.3%)," ranking second and third respectively.

For fourth place, both men and women cited "Forgetting after some time (men 15.0%, women 11.1%)."

Son Dong-gyu, CEO of Only-U, explained, "Managing dissatisfaction in married life is extremely important. Men often express dissatisfaction too directly, and women tend to hold it in and then explode all at once, both of which often cause deep wounds to their partners."

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