"Did You Go There After Failing Four Times? My Son's Girlfriend Fears His Mother"

A Story About Worrying About the Future with a Boyfriend

Recently, a story about a woman whose boyfriend's mother allegedly engaged in so-called 'academic background bashing' has sparked controversy on the 10th.

A post titled "Boyfriend's Mother Bashing Academic Background" was uploaded on the online community 'Nate Pann' on the 9th. The poster, who introduced herself as a private high school teacher, said she has been dating her boyfriend for a year after being introduced by her cousin's husband.

Ms. A said, "We are not yet in a serious relationship thinking about marriage, but recently my boyfriend's mother invited me to a meal, so I went with him," adding, "I have heard that his mother raised her two sons alone after a divorce, and my boyfriend holds a special appreciation for his mother's sacrifices."

A recent story from a woman claiming that her boyfriend's mother is engaging in so-called 'academic background bashing' has sparked controversy. [Image source=Pixabay]

Ms. A explained, "Her two sons studied well, graduated from mid-to-upper-tier universities in Seoul, got into large corporations, and were popular during their school days because of their good looks," and added, "So, the mother has high expectations for her sons."

She continued, "I entered a junior college, graduated from a lower-tier teacher's college in Seoul after four attempts, so I graduated later than others," and explained, "My father, who retired from a large corporation, is still working. We are not wealthy, but thanks to my hardworking parents, I have no major worries. My younger sister graduated from a regional national university and is now a grade 9 public official."

The problem was a remark from her boyfriend's mother. Ms. A said, "During the meal, the mother said to me with a tone like, 'You took four attempts but only got into that school?'. I was taken aback but explained that I didn't study much during school but still did my best."

On the 9th, a post titled "Boyfriend's Mother Belittling My Educational Background" was uploaded on the online community 'Nate Pann'. [Photo source=Nate Pann]

The boyfriend's mother's comments about academic background did not stop there. She said to Ms. A, "My son was always first in his class. When he was in school, teachers wanted him as their son-in-law. He missed a few questions on the college entrance exam, so he went to JungKyungWaeSi (Chung-Ang University, Kyung Hee University, Hankuk University of Foreign Studies, Seoul City University). If his condition had been better, he would have gone to YonKorea (Yonsei University, Korea University). Still, he barely made it into a university in Seoul because he wanted to."

Ms. A expressed that she felt very upset after hearing this. "I couldn't control my expression and just left without saying anything. My mind went blank," she described her feelings at the time. She added, "Even though I wasn't good at studying, I did my best. I thought about the moments when I struggled to graduate with not-so-good academic skills, and I also remembered my parents who were happy that I got into a university in Seoul."

After the meeting ended, Ms. A's boyfriend comforted her by saying, "My mother’s personality is like that," but Ms. A's worries deepened. She asked netizens for advice, saying, "I want to keep seeing him when I think about my boyfriend, but when I think about his mother, I feel like I should stop."

Netizens who read the story responded with comments such as, "The boyfriend saying his mother’s personality is like that means you should deal with it alone if problems arise," "If she bashes you like that before marriage, imagine the chaos if you have kids and take a leave," and "A healthy mindset man cannot come from such a mother."

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