The Story of a 9-Month Pregnant Woman Who Was 'Cut Off' After Missing Her 10-Year Friend's Wedding

A close friend who heard that her friend was getting married in the provinces but, due to being heavily pregnant, found it difficult to attend and only planned to send a congratulatory gift money, was reportedly 'cut off' by the friend, sparking controversy.

Recently, on the online community 'Nate Pann,' a post titled "Got cut off after not attending a wedding" was uploaded. The author, Ms. A, wrote, "I got married before my friends, but I didn't hold a wedding ceremony. Honestly, I didn't have much extra money and wanted to save even a little."

At that time, she told her friends, "I don't have money to hold a wedding, so I won't have a ceremony, and I don't need congratulatory money either. Just sincerely congratulate me. I'm just letting you know that I'm getting married."

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Among them, a friend Ms. B, whom she had known for 10 years, said to Ms. A, "Still, you should at least hold a reception or book an inexpensive buffet so I can give you congratulatory money. It's a bit awkward to give money without even getting a meal."

Ms. A replied, "I really mean it when I say you don't have to give congratulatory money. I brought it up first because I thought it might be uncomfortable. It's not an empty phrase; I really don't need congratulatory money and won't even share my account number, so no one can give it even if they want to. Just please congratulate me."

Later, Ms. A went through a difficult period after her honeymoon, but her financial situation improved compared to before. Many friends got married during that time, and although Ms. A couldn't hold a wedding ceremony and didn't receive congratulatory money, she sent 100,000 won each to her friends as congratulatory money.

In particular, when Ms. A announced her marriage, even though she said she wouldn't accept congratulatory money, some friends secretly put money into her bag or pocket and ran away, but when those friends got married, they sent 300,000 to 500,000 won as congratulatory money. Ms. A explained, "I am grateful for that kindness, and since I couldn't treat them to a meal, I felt sorry and gave a large amount as congratulatory money."

The problem arose with Ms. B's wedding. Ms. B, who moved to Busan, recently announced her wedding and sent Ms. A a mobile invitation. The wedding venue was in Busan. Currently nine months pregnant, Ms. A judged that attending would be difficult.

Ms. A said, "Since it's a situation where I could give birth at any moment, attending the wedding in Busan would require going with my husband. The round-trip KTX fare for two and accommodation costs would be quite expensive," adding, "I didn't receive any congratulatory money either, and I didn't expect any for my wedding, so I said it wasn't necessary. But I also remembered feeling hurt by comments like 'You don't even buy a meal but expect congratulatory money?'"

In the end, Ms. A told Ms. B, "My body is heavy, so it's hard to go alone, and since it's my first pregnancy, I'm scared of long-distance travel, and it's a bit of a financial burden. I'm really sorry, but I'll just send congratulatory money now, and after the baby is born and I recover, I'll leave the baby with someone and go to Busan alone to buy you a meal."

Ms. B responded angrily, "I've never heard someone say they can't come to a wedding because they're pregnant. Ten-plus years of friendship wasted. I heard you gave 500,000 won to another friend. With that money, if you and your husband came and gave 100,000 won as congratulatory money, I wouldn't have thought it was discrimination and would have been grateful."

Recently, a post titled "I was cut off after not attending a wedding" was uploaded on the online community 'Nate Pann'. [Image source: Nate Pann capture]

Ms. A wrote, "The friend I sent 500,000 won to gave me 300,000 won. I didn't even give my account number this time, but I sent congratulatory money to the account number I had given before," adding, "I think it's not a big deal because I returned the exact amount I received plus the meal expenses from attending the wedding."

She continued, "I think Ms. B has already blocked me. When I asked other friends, they said Ms. B said, 'She said she wouldn't attend the wedding because she didn't want to spend money. Weddings are good for filtering friends, and this proves it. It's better to know now than later.' I'm feeling very confused."

Netizens who read the story sympathized, saying things like, "If she's nine months pregnant, close friends would probably tell her not to come. It's better that she distanced herself on her own," "This relationship would have ended sooner or later, so don't worry and take care of your health," "It's a relief that she showed her true colors after taking all the money," "It's better to be cut off," "She's really selfish and has a bad character," and "Who would ask a nine-month pregnant woman to come all the way to Busan?"

This content was produced with the assistance of AI translation services.