Reasons for Failure in First Proposal: Lack of Effort vs. Not Knowing the Other Person Well

Men Focus on 'Efforts to Overcome Conflict'
Women Focus on 'Understanding Premarital Partners'

When asked about the 'cause of failure in their first marriage,' divorced singles (돌싱, returned singles) cited 'lack of effort to overcome conflicts' for men and 'insufficient understanding of the partner before marriage' for women.

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On the 11th, remarriage information company Only-U, in collaboration with marriage information company Bienarae, announced the results of a survey conducted from the 4th to the 9th among 518 divorced men and women nationwide who hope to remarry (259 men and 259 women each). First, in response to the question, "What do you think you lacked that caused failure in your first marriage?" 30.5% of male respondents answered "lack of effort to overcome conflicts." Among women, 32.1% answered "insufficient understanding of the partner before marriage." Following that, men answered in order: ▲lack of effort to understand the partner (25.5%), ▲insufficient understanding of the partner before marriage (19.3%), ▲lack of consideration for the partner (16.6%). Among women, the answers were ▲lack of effort to overcome conflicts (25.1%), ▲lack of patience (20.4%), ▲lack of effort to understand the partner (15.1%), and so on.

Son Dong-gyu, CEO of Only-U, explained, "Men, who relatively contribute more to the causes of marital breakdown, often focus only on avoiding the moment when problems arise and neglect efforts to resolve conflicts. Women tend to consider economic aspects excessively when choosing a spouse, and because of this characteristic, they often overlook the partner's personality, values, and lifestyle."

Next, in response to the question, "If you have any regrets about how you treated your spouse in your first marriage, what are they?" male respondents ranked "I should have lived a more restrained life" (33.2%) and "I should have respected them more" (28.2%) as first and second. They also answered ▲I should have been more generous (18.2%) ▲I should have been more cheerful (13.8%). Women most frequently chose "I should have nagged less" (34.4%) and "I should have been more cheerful" (28.6%), followed by ▲I should have respected them more (17.4%) ▲I should have lived a more restrained life (11.9%).

Lee Kyung, General Manager of Bienarae, said, "Among divorced men, many divorces occur due to affairs, financial problems, verbal abuse, or physical violence, so they regret their lack of self-restraint. Women tend to complain about every little thing when the partner's personality or lifestyle does not match theirs well, but after divorce, they blame themselves for being too harsh."

Finally, in response to the question, "What attitude should one have after remarriage to maintain a harmonious married life?" 34.4% of men answered "have a willingness to solve problems," while 35.5% of women answered "be considerate of each other." Both men and women ranked "understand each other" as the second most common answer (men 27.0%, women 28.6%).

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