Fiancee Who Took Depression Medication for 7 Years: "Should I Tell My Fiance?"
Published 30 Apr.2024 10:55(KST)
Updated 30 Apr.2024 15:56(KST)
Fiancee Taking Depression Medication for 7 Years
"Not Even Schizophrenia, Should I Disclose?" Question
Netizens Debate "Fraud Marriage" vs "Hide It"
A story from a bride-to-be who is struggling with whether to disclose her past history of depression to her fianc? before marriage has sparked heated debate among netizens.
On the 29th, a post titled "Do I have to tell him about my depression before marriage?" was uploaded on an online community. As of 10 a.m. on the 30th, the post had garnered over 91,000 views and 800 recommendations, becoming a major topic of discussion. The author, A, began by saying, "I have been taking medication for depression for about seven years."
A explained, "In the past, my depression was severe enough to cause negative thoughts," adding, "But now I’m fine, and since depression is not a mental illness like schizophrenia but a common condition many office workers experience, I’m not sure if I need to disclose that I’m taking medication before marriage." She continued, "My depression was caused by domestic violence," and said, "If it were something like schizophrenia, I would understand, but many office workers take medication for depression, so I don’t see a reason to specifically mention it," asking for opinions.
Netizens who read the post responded with comments such as, "If you have a cold for seven years, you should tell him," "The fact that you’re worried means you should tell him," "Common office workers don’t take depression medication for seven years," "Not telling him is fraud in marriage," "Put yourself in his shoes," and "Mental health history is a bigger issue than physical illness."
On the other hand, some netizens said, "Just say you’re receiving counseling and taking depression medication due to mild stress," "There’s no benefit in telling him, so hide it," "You’ll only lose out if you tell him," and "He might use it as a problem later during a divorce."
Meanwhile, depression refers to a state where overall mental functions such as thought content, thought processes, motivation, will, interest, behavior, sleep, and physical activity are continuously impaired, negatively affecting daily life. Although the exact cause of depression has not yet been clearly identified, like other mental illnesses, it is said to be caused by various biochemical, genetic, and environmental factors.
7 Lifestyle Rules for Depression Prevention and Management
- Engage in hobbies or enjoyable activities with friends and family.
- Even if you don’t talk, spending time with people who understand you helps reduce depression.
2. Exercise regularly
- Walk for at least 30 minutes daily at a pace that makes you slightly out of breath.
- It is also good to receive guidance from your primary doctor or exercise expert.
3. Avoid drinking alcohol
- Avoid binge drinking and drink as slowly as possible.
- Break the habit of frequent drinking.
4. Maintain regular and balanced meals
- Reduce overeating and consumption of red meat, fast food, and instant foods.
- Increase dietary fiber intake and maintain a Mediterranean diet.
- Eat fish and seafood at least twice a week.
- Consume moderate amounts of white meat like chicken, eggs, cheese, and yogurt weekly.
5. Maintain healthy sleep habits
- Reduce the use of tablets and smartphones before bedtime.
- Reduce intake of foods containing caffeine.
6. Participate positively in treatment
- Combine psychiatric/psychological therapy and medication.
- Do not adjust or stop medication on your own.
- Don’t worry alone; consult with a professional.
7. Do not take warning signs lightly
- Aggressive or impulsive behavior, or tidying up surroundings, are dangerous signs. It is best to take prompt action.
- Secure safety first, then consult experts and specialized institutions.
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